This is your family and your divorce We offer three process options allowing divorcing couple to transform their family with dignity and remain in control of their future parental and financial relationships.
A win-win scenario is always within reach.
Collaborative divorce is a private and autonomous team approach to conflict resolution. From the outset, the collaborative approach aligns a separating couple’s interests in a positive and empowering process of restructuring from a nuclear to a bi-nuclear family through respectful communication and out of the box thinking, while simultaneously preserving the dignity and privacy of the relationship.
Private, expedient and mutually beneficial.
Designed to encourage constructive dialogue and open communication, divorce mediation provides spouses with a private, informal and comfortable environment to discuss and resolve sensitive issues. Your mediator serves as a neutral facilitator of communication and does not represent the interests of either spouse. In order to be successful, both spouses must be comfortable speaking for themselves and tackling the difficult issues.
Not all roads lead to trial.
Negotiated settlement divorce looks at litigation as the last option when it comes to divorce resolution. A litigated divorce is one where the parties use the legal system to resolve their divorce. Approximately 95% of all divorce cases end in settlement before trial. However, in the context of litigation, the emotional and financial damage inflicted along the way to your settlement can be devastating.
Kim Ciesinski, a seasoned lawyer with 25 years experience, is the founder of ADR Law, a law practice devoted to offering a better way for married couples to divorce. Kim’s mission is to help couples looking to divorce to consider collaborative process, mediation and negotiated settlement as alternatives to litigation because these provide extra support and assistance to the whole family.
She is the co-author of a book entitled, “Stress- Free Divorce – Volume 3”. She speaks and writes articles on the subject of Collaborative Divorce, and shares her alternative divorce expertise in multiple interviews in the press and on several radio shows.
Out of court. Resolutions derived from out-of-the-box thinking, creative problem solving, and open and honest negotiations help spouses reach a mutually beneficial agreement that works for the entire family.
In court. Resolutions governed by complicated statutes and case law leave no room for creative problem solving. Resolutions imposed by a judge or by agreement rarely benefit both parties mutually.
Client-driven negotiations. vs Attorney-driven negotiations.
Client-driven negotiations. Divorcing spouses are active participants in control of determining the next chapter of their lives. Both parties feel empowered and satisfied by contributing to a result based on mutual respect.
Attorney-driven negotiations. Attorneys reach agreements with limited input or participation from clients. Divorcing spouses feel depleted, exploited, angry, and irrelevant to their own lives.
Efficient. Clear agendas established and followed in scheduled meetings produce action items for both spouses and serve as basis for future agendas. On average, alternative divorce cases resolve by agreement in one-third of the time of litigated divorce.
Inefficient. The arbitrary rules and timeframes of litigation result in countless wasted billable hours. Adjournments and unproductive conferences impede progress and drain the financial resources of the family.
High incidence of compliance. vs Low incidence of compliance.
High incidence of compliance. Spouses who play an active role in creating an agreement that takes everyone’s needs into consideration are far more likely to abide by the terms. Reduced failure to comply creates lower incidence of costly future litigation.
Low incidence of compliance. Future co-parenting and financial relationships imposed by a judge or established in an agreement entered after emotional and financial trauma increase the likelihood of enforcement litigation.
Calm. A calm, private, and supportive environment encourages sound, well-reasoned and unpressured decision making, resulting in a more positive future relationship — particularly regarding co-parenting.
Chaos. A highly stressful environment, filled with the emotional and financial pressures of adversarial litigation, results in poor decision making. Agreements are borne of frustration and exhaustion, rather than a measured accommodation of each party’s needs.
Less costly. A matter moves at a pace set by the couple. Scheduled meetings are productive and streamline the discovery process. On average, cases resolved by collaborative divorce, mediation or negotiation are resolved for one-third the cost of litigation.
Cost prohibitive. A matter moves at a pace determined by the court and attorneys, often wasting countless billable hours on motion practice and unnecessary court conferences.
We love hearing about our clients’ positive experiences.
Here’s what some of our most satisfied clients have to say about us.
A simple and pleasurable experience.
“Uncoupling is emotional and difficult. Kim and her team made it as pleasurable and simple as possible. She guided us to the best resolution quickly. I really valued her experience and guidance during the process and highly recommend working with her.”
A great collaborative attorney who understands clients’ needs.
“I have worked with Kim on several Collaborative Divorce cases as a financial neutral. Kim’s handling of clients is compassionate and respectful. Kim is very effective at helping clients find their voice so that they are empowered to make decisions and take an active role in shaping their financial and parenting future. This process enables the “no longer intact family” to continue to have an on-going relationship so that each of them could continue to co-parent and be comfortable in each other’s presence during family milestones. Had this gone to litigation, the process would have continued for years and been destructive to the family. Kim’s understanding of the Collaborative process has helped her clients reach settlements that were tailored to meet their needs for future independence.”
I highly recommend Kim for mediation.
“I recently hired Kim for mediation. She spent a lot of time explaining the process and helping us come up with a separation agreement that worked for both myself and my ex. I would highly recommend using Kim if you decide mediation is for you!”
An amazing advisor who offers a professional and pleasant experience.
“Kim has been an amazing advisor. Kim manages to make a very contentious and emotional circumstance actually a pleasant experience. She is very professional and shows real interest in her clients. Kim is very fair and offers very sound advice. I would highly recommend Kim Ciesinski to any couple seeking dissolution of their marriage.”