Creating a Support System During Divorce

Your spouse, your mutual friends and possibly even your in-laws have been your rock and support system for many years. But when a marriage ends and those support systems are no longer available to you, it’s crucial to build an alternative network to help get you through a divorce. Who you rely on for emotional support and information during a divorce process will have a significant impact on how you fare and transition to the next phase of your life.

As humans, we’re naturally inclined to connect and belong. When you lose that connection, you may feel isolated and alone. This feeling can become exaggerated when you’re going through a painful experience like divorce. A strong support system during a divorce carries many benefits, such as making it easier to let go; providing motivation to heal; and relieving the feelings of guilt, self-doubt, and anger.

To make this time easier, consider creating a network that supports your total well-being. There are many different types of support that you can establish to help you feel like you are not alone in the battle:

• Family and Friends: Try not to self-isolate. Spending time with friends or family who truly want to see the best for you can bolster your self-confidence and sense of belonging at a time when you may be feeling insecure and frightened about the future.
• Emotional:Seeking professional support from a therapist or counselor can make it easier to process your emotions and move through the stages of grief in a healthy and constructive way.
• Physical: Staying healthy during a stressful event can help you feel better and enable you to cope with the stress more effectively. Some strategies include creating a nutrition plan, find people to exercise with and friends who can engage in healthy activities with you.
• Support Groups: There are plenty of support groups for people going through a divorce. You can find them online or in your local area. Hearing stories from others and learning about their experiences will help you cope. While every divorce is unique, there are many lessons that can be learned from the experience of others.
• Financial Experts: Certified Divorce Financial Planners, and accountants, help you understand the economic landscape and plan accordingly. Quite often, they also play a critical role in providing a financial analysis to attorneys in their efforts to secure a balanced division of assets and debts, as well as the fair allocation of spousal and child support.

The comfort and valuable information that you get from your friends, family and professionals is essential to maintaining your mental health. Of course the most crucial aspect of your support system is the right attorney. The legal system can be confusing and overwhelming. Trying to move through it alone can be daunting, so having the appropriate legal advice is invaluable. Alternative Divorce Resolutions (ADR) fosters an atmosphere of cooperation and privacy for spouses seeking a respectful and non-litigious transition into a separate life. The service we offer allows couples to restructure and transform their families with a healthy and positive alternative to divorce litigation.

A divorce can be difficult. With a good support system, you can be inspired to heal and emerge as a stronger person with a bright future.