Divorce — it's not about destruction.
Our mission is to spare families from the destructive forces of divorce litigation and help divorcing spouses maintain control of their futures. We believe families in transition need support from various professionals working together to restructure and transform their lives. The inherent adversarial nature of the court system fails to provide that support or foster an atmosphere of compromise and healing during one of life’s most traumatic events.
Far too often, “divorce” becomes synonymous with “destruction.” Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way: a divorcing spouse doesn’t have to be a warring spouse. Just because the relationship you once had with your spouse is changing doesn’t mean it must be completely destroyed.
After decades of practicing matrimonial and family law in the litigation model, we concluded that litigation, in the context of divorce, is unnecessarily divisive and destructive to the emotional and financial well-being of families and undermines the possibility of a positive future relationship between former spouses.
This insight led to a mission: empower and assist couples in transforming from a nuclear to bi-nuclear family in a cost-effective and time-efficient manner with dignity and privacy.
We focus on helping divorcing couples restructure the financial and co-parenting aspects of the family and move forward in a positive direction with a strong foundation.
Together, we get to the heart of underlying issues, develop realistic goals for the future, and formulate creative and functional solutions tailored to the needs of both the individual and the new bi-nuclear family.
Kim M. Ciesinski, Esq., PLLC
For more than 25 years, Kim Ciesinski has focused her legal career exclusively in the area of Divorce and Family Law. She represents clients in all aspects of divorce and family law matters, including custody, parenting time schedules, spousal maintenance, child support, distribution of assets, prenuptial and postnuptial agreements, as well as post-judgment proceedings.
Sadly, the word “divorce” has become synonymous with “destruction.” But Kim believes it doesn’t have to be that way. Ms. Ciesinski believes that divorce can and should be a process of restructuring the financial and parental aspects of a family unit through a healthy, positive process.
She strives to move clients through this often devastating experience by thinking out of the box and creating realistic long term goals to make the transition from marriage to divorce less traumatic. To that end, Kim focuses her practice on collaborative divorce, mediation, and negotiated settlement as highly effective alternatives to adversarial litigation.
Ms. Ciesinski’s goal is to listen, understand, and acknowledge her clients’ needs and desires and help them restructure their families by reaching a fair settlement, with the least possible emotional and financial trauma. Certified in mediation from the Ackerman Institute for the Family, and highly trained in Collaborative Interdisciplinary Practice from the New York Association of Collaborative Professionals, Kim pursues ongoing advanced training every year.
Ms. Ciesinski co- authored a book entitled, “Stress- Free Divorce – Volume 3”. She speaks and writes articles on the subject of Collaborative Divorce, and shares her alternative divorce expertise in multiple interviews in the press and on several radio shows.
A strong advocate for families, Ms. Ciesinski serves on the Advisory Board for The Center for Children, Families and the Law at Hofstra Law School. A Special Master for the Nassau County Supreme Court, appointed by judges, she assists in resolving highly contentious matrimonial cases before trial. Kim is a member of the Nassau County, Suffolk County, New York State, and New York Women’s Bar Associations as well as the New York State Association of Collaborative Professionals and the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals.
Active in the community, Ms. Ciesinski gives back through fundraising and philanthropy as a current board member of The Red Cross Long Island region. She is a former board member of Girls Inc. and past president and board member of The Junior Welfare League of Huntington. Kim is a graduate and member of the Energeia Partnership at Molloy College, a regional leadership program. She is also a member of Hofstra University’s Women in Leadership Initiative, which helps to mentor and empower Hofstra students and alumnae.
KIM M. CIESINSKI, ESQ., PLLC is an Adjunct Professor at
Read the Book
Divorce is one of the most stress inducing life events. Ms. Ciesinski has co-authored a book entitled, “Stress-Free Divorce – Volume 3”. In addition to her chapter on collaborative divorce, the book offers the helpful perspectives of attorneys, mental health professionals and financial advisors on reducing the stress attendant to every divorce.Shop on Amazon
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Kim is an outstanding advocate for her clients. She has an extraordinary comprehension of both the legal and personal issues her clients are faced with. She is kind and compassionate when addressing emotionally charged issues for her clients and zealously communicates to the Court and adversaries on their behalves.
Making Lemonade Out of Lemons
After my divorce agreement concluded with my previous lawyer I found myself in the uncomfortable position of having to hire another attorney to collect the funds that my former husband was reneging on. Luckily I was referred to Ms. Kim Ciesinski. From the onset I found her to be friendly, thoughtful and very professional. She was able to quickly and thoroughly review my case and set forth preparing stipulations and motions that needed to be filed. The case was just recently concluded and I was compensated 100%. Kim’s expertise in this field together with her witty sense of humor made this transaction as easy as it could be. Additionally I found her legal fees to be very fair. I would recommend her and her staff whole heartedly.
Kim is a consummate professional. She is empathetic. She listens acutely and advised thoughtfully. I felt better thoughout the process knowing i had her guidance and protection. She was patient in educating me in my rights, and courses of action. She understood my intent and was able to accordingly represent my interests – not just monetarily. I am grateful to have been referred.
I have worked with Kim on many cases as a family specialist/divorce coach during a collaborative divorce. I am always impressed by her skills and integrity as a lawyer, and how well she represents her clients. Many people seek her out because of her outstanding reputation and her ability to humanize a difficult situation. She is able to easily grasp the key elements of a divorce and communicate them with a clarity that enables both parties to understand the issues and productively work towards an agreement. With this as a foundation, their agreement works for them individually and for their family. Reaching such an agreement is the essence and goal of a collaborative divorce. What Kim contributes makes finding mutually beneficial solutions easier.
Kim Ciesinski is in a League of Her Own
Going through a very difficult challenging divorce is never easy, especially when the welfare of a child is at stake. I could search til the end of time and never find the right words that capture my gratitude for hiring Ms. Ciesinski. There are a multitude of reasons why I feel this deeply. She truly understood my situation and guided me through it both professionally and with compassion.
It was always about working together to get through a terrible divorce with the least about of stress and anxiety. She would constantly not only reassure but prove to me that I would get through this challenge and come out stronger. Through court appearances and many conferences, I no longer felt frightened or scared. I knew that Ms Ciesinski not only had my back, she held my heart and she knew exactly how to find my peace through a complicated legal system. Kim Ciesinski is in a league of her own.
Breaking up was not so hard to do!!
As a lawyer with significant assets and three children who was getting divorced, I wanted a pragmatic, cost-effective, no-nonsense attorney as a mediator. Kim was all of the above and more. Reasonably priced (without any professional courtesy), she guided my ex and myself seamlessly through a divorce which could have been drawn out and infinitely more painful on multiple fronts.
Facing the new normal, and confronting the next chapter in our lives was a difficult and painful experience. Kim and her team made the transition simple, they were professional and caring. Kim took the time to really listen to all the concerns we had going in together and led us down our new separate paths. I valued Kim’s advise and guidance during the process. I highly recommend Kim and her firm.