Divorce — it's not about destruction.
Our mission is to spare families from the destructive forces of divorce litigation and help divorcing spouses maintain control of their futures. We believe families in transition need support from various professionals working together to restructure and transform their lives. The inherent adversarial nature of the court system fails to provide that support or foster an atmosphere of compromise and healing during one of life’s most traumatic events.
Far too often, “divorce” becomes synonymous with “destruction.” Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way: a divorcing spouse doesn’t have to be a warring spouse. Just because the relationship you once had with your spouse is changing doesn’t mean it must be completely destroyed.
After decades of practicing matrimonial and family law in the litigation model, we concluded that litigation, in the context of divorce, is unnecessarily divisive and destructive to the emotional and financial well-being of families and undermines the possibility of a positive future relationship between former spouses.
This insight led to a mission: empower and assist couples in transforming from a nuclear to bi-nuclear family in a cost-effective and time-efficient manner with dignity and privacy.
We focus on helping divorcing couples restructure the financial and co-parenting aspects of the family and move forward in a positive direction with a strong foundation.
Together, we get to the heart of underlying issues, develop realistic goals for the future, and formulate creative and functional solutions tailored to the needs of both the individual and the new bi-nuclear family.
Kim M. Ciesinski, Esq., PLLC
For more than 25 years, Kim Ciesinski has focused her legal career exclusively in the area of Divorce and Family Law. She represents clients in all aspects of divorce and family law matters, including custody, parenting time schedules, spousal maintenance, child support, distribution of assets, prenuptial and postnuptial agreements, as well as post-judgment proceedings.
Sadly, the word “divorce” has become synonymous with “destruction.” But Kim believes it doesn’t have to be that way. Ms. Ciesinski believes that divorce can and should be a process of restructuring the financial and parental aspects of a family unit through a healthy, positive process.
She strives to move clients through this often devastating experience by thinking out of the box and creating realistic long term goals to make the transition from marriage to divorce less traumatic. To that end, Kim focuses her practice on collaborative divorce, mediation, and negotiated settlement as highly effective alternatives to adversarial litigation.
Ms. Ciesinski’s goal is to listen, understand, and acknowledge her clients’ needs and desires and help them restructure their families by reaching a fair settlement, with the least possible emotional and financial trauma. Certified in mediation from the Ackerman Institute for the Family, and highly trained in Collaborative Interdisciplinary Practice from the New York Association of Collaborative Professionals, Kim pursues ongoing advanced training every year.
Ms. Ciesinski co- authored a book entitled, “Stress- Free Divorce – Volume 3”. She speaks and writes articles on the subject of Collaborative Divorce, and shares her alternative divorce expertise in multiple interviews in the press and on several radio shows.
A strong advocate for families, Ms. Ciesinski serves on the Advisory Board for The Center for Children, Families and the Law at Hofstra Law School. A Special Master for the Nassau County Supreme Court, appointed by judges, she assists in resolving highly contentious matrimonial cases before trial. Kim is a member of the Nassau County, Suffolk County, New York State, and New York Women’s Bar Associations as well as the New York State Association of Collaborative Professionals and the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals.
Active in the community, Ms. Ciesinski gives back through fundraising and philanthropy as a current board member of The Red Cross Long Island region. She is a former board member of Girls Inc. and past president and board member of The Junior Welfare League of Huntington. Kim is a graduate and member of the Energeia Partnership at Molloy College, a regional leadership program. She is also a member of Hofstra University’s Women in Leadership Initiative, which helps to mentor and empower Hofstra students and alumnae.
KIM M. CIESINSKI, ESQ., PLLC is an Adjunct Professor at
Read the Book
Divorce is one of the most stress inducing life events. Ms. Ciesinski has co-authored a book entitled, “Stress-Free Divorce – Volume 3”. In addition to her chapter on collaborative divorce, the book offers the helpful perspectives of attorneys, mental health professionals and financial advisors on reducing the stress attendant to every divorce.Shop on Amazon
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An invaluable asset to my divorce agreement.
“Kim handled my separation/divorce agreement and her expertise, professionalism and advice were invaluable to me. From our first free consultation to signing the final documents, Kim made me feel supported and was sensitive to my particular situation. I highly recommend Kim’s services.”
A simple and pleasurable experience.
“Uncoupling is emotional and difficult. Kim and her team made it as pleasurable and simple as possible. She guided us to the best resolution quickly. I really valued her experience and guidance during the process and highly recommend working with her.”
Kim helped my son and me more than I can possibly say.
“I am a single mom who came to Kim 3 weeks after my son was born. As a new mother you have such fear and feelings about protecting your child. I always assumed I would be the custodial parent, however my son’s father and family had their own feelings and demands. Quite frankly, at the time we had such a heightened sense of animosity and anger on both sides.
Kim helped us to facilitate this whole process, manage the expectations and step by step “hold my hand” when it was most needed. She is direct and no fluff, but beyond empathetic with working women and single moms who are struggling to make life right for their family and themselves. When you go through experiences like this at times you feel powerless. Kim truly helped me to remain in a place where I felt my own empowerment.
A year later we are in a good place. My son’s father sees him twice a week, we receive proper financial support and all parties are on board with doing what’s best for the baby. He has two happy families and could not be filled with more love in his life. We will never be able to thank Kim Ciesinski enough for the support, patience and help she gave us to move forward with our lives.”
I highly recommend Kim for mediation.
“I recently hired Kim for mediation. She spent a lot of time explaining the process and helping us come up with a separation agreement that worked for both myself and my ex. I would highly recommend using Kim if you decide mediation is for you!”
Guiding us through the next chapter of our lives.
“Facing the new normal and confronting the next chapter in our lives was a difficult and painful experience. Kim and her team made the transition simple and were professional and caring. Kim took the time to really listen to all the concerns we had going in together and led us down our new separate paths. I valued Kim’s advice and guidance during the process. I highly recommend Kim and her firm.”
An amazing advisor who offers a professional and pleasant experience.
“Kim has been an amazing advisor. Kim manages to make a very contentious and emotional circumstance actually a pleasant experience. She is very professional and shows real interest in her clients. Kim is very fair and offers very sound advice. I would highly recommend Kim Ciesinski to any couple seeking dissolution of their marriage.”
A top notch advocate.
“Kim is an outstanding advocate for her clients. She has an extraordinary comprehension of both the legal and personal issues her clients are faced with. She is kind and compassionate when addressing emotionally charged issues for her clients and zealously communicates to the Court and adversaries on their behalves.”
A great collaborative attorney who understands clients’ needs.
“I have worked with Kim on several Collaborative Divorce cases as a financial neutral. Kim’s handling of clients is compassionate and respectful. Kim is very effective at helping clients find their voice so that they are empowered to make decisions and take an active role in shaping their financial and parenting future. This process enables the “no longer intact family” to continue to have an on-going relationship so that each of them could continue to co-parent and be comfortable in each other’s presence during family milestones. Had this gone to litigation, the process would have continued for years and been destructive to the family. Kim’s understanding of the Collaborative process has helped her clients reach settlements that were tailored to meet their needs for future independence.”
Don’t let her size fool you!
“I had an obstinate husband, who fought me tooth and nail in our divorce. Unfortunately, I started with another lawyer who did absolutely nothing for me. I was given Kim’s name and finally felt help was on the way! She is an excellent advocate. I felt she always had my back and got me everything I was looking for in the divorce and then some. I have recommended her to many people and if you are smart you will hire her to be your attorney.”
Kim was a great advocate in a difficult time.
“I retained Kim for my divorce on a recommendation of a friend. Kim was a great advocate with sound advice and a champion for myself and my children. My divorce, like many, had some challenges and Kim was able to address them and keep the process moving forward. She was always professional, offering great advice. Divorce is never easy and knowing that Kim truly had my back made it less stressful.”